So many sisters complain to me about the ups and downs of “strong men” who outwardly don’t explain their pain. But the signs are there. We aren’t trying to hurt you. We are hurting. If it wasn’t for yall, a lot of us woulda been in the grave. You sisters may not realize how many lives you’ve saved with your love and mercy. But we want to be strong for you, it’s just that we’re simply trying to survive with all this poison in our systems. So we break down, only around yall.
We become weak, only around yall. We get emotional, only around yall. In those moments you see our shattered childhoods and our tortured souls laid bare. If only we weren’t so vulnerable that we make u the enemy! We know we supposed to love ourselves first, but most of us don’t know how, so we expect one of you to show us the way. Of course, we don’t realize you might be learning too, and thus we end up at odds. We expect perfection from each other but our perfection is made of flesh and blood, which are full of challenges for us to overcome. That’s our life’s journey.
It’s a blessing when, in the course of that journey, you find a traveling companion who understands your path and shares your destination, but your healing doesn’t require it. You’ve only got to learn the love of yourself. There’s a child in you that you buried or beat on, telling yourself there was a way you should feel and be. And yet that child in you remains alive, waiting for you to honor and accept them again. And to see the beauty of your perilous journey so that it’s all worth it.
Hope this all makes sense. If not, just go with this. #loveyourselffirst – (Author: @supremeunderstanding on Instagram) (Artist: @loveychuhtha on Instagram) #BlackLove #StrongBlackMen #RebirthOfLove #Love #UnconditionalLove #Healing #SoulZen #LetTheHealingBegin